When I first figured out that my husband was the one, I never looked back. I committed to him and his kids. Period, end of story. I am not going to lie and say my life did not drastically change going from a single woman to being part of a family of four. It absolutely did and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.
True, I have changed many aspects of my life. I have gotten a better paying job, moved from MY first home, and changed schools multiple times all to better mine and my family’s life. I now work at the middle school on the same campus as the kids’ elementary school. I can easily attend school events and pick the kids up after school. And actually, I work at the best school I have ever been a part of.
Some call it making sacrifices, I call it making a commitment. If my husband and I had three children of our own, everyone would see my actions as heroic or responsible, or just trying to be the best mom and wife I can. When you’re blended, however, you are viewed differently. It looks like you are changing your whole world to accommodate. How would anything be different if the kids were biologically mine? Then it’s acceptable? I have learned to cast these opinions aside and continue to do what is best for my family. And you know what? It’s working. The kids are happy, my husband and I are happy and for the most part we have an amicable situation. Every parent makes sacrifices, it’s what we do, blended or not.